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Social media undoings
Breaking up used to be a largely personal matter. You could easily toss away all the photos, love letters and anything that is remnant of past relationship, never to be seen again. But social media makes it extremely difficult for people these days to get over their exes. On facebook and WhatsApp, you see their new pictures and statuses pop up all the time. Their lives is so accessible that you find yourself stalking all the pictures you had with them. And you find yourself missing those moments with this person. And you find yourself wanting them all over again. And that’s when things can get dangerous.
Being a friend of divorcing partners
I begin to think this is what it must be like to be a friend of divorcing partners. Before, there was one truth, one story, one reality; now there are two. Each side accuses the other, and amid the raised voices, the unappeasable points of view, the vitriol and distress, the obfuscation and exaggeration and blame, the only thing that is demonstrably clear is that one side is ruder than the other. Seems to me that even if you didn’t know what they were arguing about, you would have to come to that conclusion.
It just sound disingenuous to cause a social faux pass with your personal issues altogether. Deal with it within your faculty.
Before, there was one truth, one story, one reality; now there are two. Each side accuses the other, and amid the raised voices, the unappeasable points of view, the vitriol and distress, the obfuscation and exaggeration and blame, the only thing that is demonstrably clear is that one side is ruder than the other.
Post Break up Competition
Whenever a couple calls it quits, they begin to engage in a race of petty display of who can move on quicker or appear happier to the world. Cluttering up social media with constant updates of how awesome they are without an ex, stalking them to investigate their progress is what I call break up competition. A total madness.
Come on guys, this is real. Take a spot check on the social pages of your dejected friends who feels their partners took them for a ride. You could see a first order violence indirectly meted out on them in terms of: lurid tittle-tattle, suggestive pics which are meant to outshine and all manner of sinister phraseologies. All these are meant to reel them back into nolstagic hell as much as they try to flee into the future.
Just a few examples of facebook posts and WhatsApp status updates:
“I heard that you are a player, nice to meet you, I’m the new coach”
“I would not complain if climatic change saw an end to, say, mosquitoes, hadedas and sharks. Or anything really, that thinks it can bite me or shout at me before the sun even rises. I’m including an ex-boyfriend here.”
“More bold and more beautiful and more happy.”
Every human being is born with some degree of competition in their blood but the one place this primal trait should never rear its ugly face is after break ups. It makes you miserable, it is time consuming and expensive.
I’m no expert on breakups management. To be honest, I suck at them and avoid any confrontation that it can bring. But doing these activities to obliterate past memories will be your panacea for piece of mind:
- Block them. On everything. And anything. It sounds harsh, and unecesssry but, it is truly the only thing that will finally let go of the sadness and pain that breakups bring. Out of site out of mind. When you don’t see their pictures pop up everywhere, you will start to adapt to a life without them. You will not feel the urge to see what they are up to. Clicking on that block button will make your future self thank you. And your ex will probably be thankful too.
Unfollow on instagran. While it may feel extreme and aggressive, it feels unhealthy to be bombarded with photos, period.
Recondition your mind to associate those things you used to do with your partner with other people. Simple, overwrite your ex.
Beat bad memories with busy work. We don’t have time to waste daydreaming about ‘What ifs.’ Use every second of your time to optimize your lifestyle.
Show you still care. While your ex may fire some social media jabs, it is imperative you refrain from revenge. They always expect you to retaliate and defend yourself. They want to feel they have a hold over you and a degree of control. By responding to their pettiness, you are indicating you still care and that your life is impacted by what they have to say about you.
- Move on with your life and let someone who is on your level find you. Your ex is not.
- Repeat after me: Stop following your Ex on Social Media.
No one can predict the future, but plenty of people are out there talking about what the future could be – with a changing technological, legal and cultural environment. Our glitchy human behavior may make it harder for us to take actions that benefit our future selves.
But when you can imagine concrete details of a possible future, it’s easier to close the future gap and put yourself into that future and it will become less of a stranger.
Like many students, I’ve fallen prey to a cardinal paradox – poisoning the present by agonizing over a future hardship that might never materialize. The greatest fear of many students is how they will begin life after their last university paper. See, we are wrapped up in things that have not yet happened. This makes us excellent problem solvers, but appalling worriers at the same time.
So, in this article, we want to ruin our short time alive by setting expectations of how we think everything should be after our university.
University comes with a lot of free things: free flowing water, free electricity, inexpensive accommodation, free WiFi and the fastest internet connections, free meeting rooms, free playing grounds, free gym services, free books in the library, free consulting from professors who always love getting involved in student run startups, free comrades – there are so many ways you can use your comrades for free, of course for mutual benefit, whether it is being shown how to use an application system in the computer, or holding your legs as you do sit-ups – virtually free everything you would pay dearly for outside campus.
Finishing your last paper means you are kissing the world of freebies goodbye. And you begin to live independently. The minute you threw that tasseled cap in the air, your student loans are no longer mythical numbers you’ve ignored for four years, Monday – Friday, 8-5 is a real thing, the year becomes a whole 12 months not two semesters and a break.
First thing pay attention to the present, ensure you have lived a full life so that you will not whine about those things you did not do in college. Fifty years ago, philosopher Alain Watts wrote in The Wisdom of Insecurity,
“It is in vain that we can predict and control the course of events in the future, unless we know how to live in the present. It is in vain that doctors prolong life if we spend the extra time being anxious to live still longer.”
Too often our minds are set on getting somewhere else. Each beautiful day comes to an end with hundreds of unnoticed moments behind us – we didn’t notice them because they were insignificant to us. And over time our entire lives become a massive pile of unnoticed and insignificant moments on our way to more important things. Then the important things get rushed through too… to get to the next one, and the next, until our time is up and we’re left questioning where it all went. But it doesn’t have to be this way anymore. This moment is your life, and you can make the best of it. The future hasn’t arrived. The only thing that’s real is what’s happening right now.
Choose your environment wisely. The environment is more powerful than your internal resolve. As a human-being, you always take on the form of the environments you continually place yourself. Consequently, the best use of your choices is consciously designing environments that facilitate your going one step beyond. Don’t spend all your time with idiots and then wonder why it’s hard to meet someone great to provide you opportunities. Go where the people you want to be like are.
If you move home, have a deadline how long you are going to stay there. It is comfortable yes but the distance between comfortable and complacent is surprisingly short.
Keep learning. Just because your formal education might have ended doesn’t mean you should stop learning. You have got to keep old skills sharp and continue learning new ones.
As for me, I will be willing to do any job in my field that provides an opportunity for moving ahead. I’m a big fan of starting small, trying different things to see which works and which doesn’t. And iterating based on feedback.
This is what happens when an ambitious lady goes OneStepBeyond and practice the power of tenacity. Remember miss Mwaura we intervied a couple of months ago? She is back, this time round as the winner of the epochal miss Agriculture Egerton 2017 after trying thrice on the same. Please read her exclusive interview with MosesAumaSpeaksSite. Thanks.
Why did you get into this competition? Modelling is a passion. Like I said previously, I’m determined to grab any chance that come along. I wanted to grow my modeling career and with the title I would be easily exposed to the outside world .I also love Agriculture as it is the backbone of our country’s economy.
What were the preparations and arrangements before the event?
The preparations were not as sloppy as any viewer would think. It wasn’t easy to come up with ideas and outfits though I was well prepared for the competition. I had to spend cash on some attire… the whole look to be precise. Vigorous training that was on point by Mr and Miss agriculture 2016, Jaspher and Gasheri really gave me my footing.
What kept you ahead of the crowd?
The competition was stiff, all the models had great ideas. I just thought out of the box to come up with all of my wears. I listened to corrections from trainers and I trusted in God. With the past experience, I tried my best to perfect my previous weaknesses.
What was your experience?
It was a beautiful experience. The competition was intense and everyone was constantly working out to win the crown. This also being my third time contesting consecutively for the same title, I had confidence, I was easy, giving up isn’t my thing. I would advise anyone getting into the modeling world to always keep trying , trust yourself and trust in the Lord more eventually, success will come your way .
What does the victory mean for you?
It means everything considering it has been a long struggle. It reminds me to thank God for the far and for giving me the strength to handle the incoming responsibilities. I’m so happy. Congratulations to me!
Describe your fans:
Ooh my you would confuse me for a politician. I campaigned massively, helped by my friends. I was mesmerized by the support I witnessed during the event. I’m overwhelmingly indebted to them. I’m so humbled, moved and thankful to my funs and my supportive siblings.
You were required to conduct online voting and campaign. How was it?
I created a link and shared it to all of my friends on WhatsApp and Facebook groups. I also posted it on my instagram page. I made everybody my fan leaders. It was worrying that I was not leading until the last minutes when I formed a whatsapp group where my team did a good work, they voted and spread it far and wide. That is the time I took the lead. Thank you so much team Fai for Miss Agriculture.
What was the toughest part?
Yikes! It was hectic. Two days remaining and I had gathered nothing. I just had blurred ideas. I think gathering all the props was tough. Some you couldn’t get so you had to improvise.
Who were your inner circle working team?
From my well supportive funs who really turned up, my family, my closest friends and to this big team of designers; Millicent Anjiri miss Culture 2017, Winfred the make up artist and stylist, Loureen Chero and finally Ian Duncan, the main designer. I witnessed great support, coordination and love. I’m grateful. I thank God for the far may he use me as mentor…. to others as I strive to reach my goals.
What do you want to stand up for as the reigning Miss Agriculture Egerton?
Now Egerton is on Authority the finest Agricultural Institution in sub-Saharan Africa. I want to creat that impression to the rest of the world and use my position as well to campaign for sustainable farming and reduction of food insecurity. When beauty meets brain, something extraordinary just happens.
Finally, OneStepBeyond gives you chance to make appreciation.
First of all I would like to thank God for everything. Then congratulate my designer Dante and my three friends (Millie, Winnie & Losh), this guy came up with the best ideas. His designs were unique and creative. He was there each time I needed him even though he was dressing another contestant who coincidentally became my Mr. Agriculture and I respect him for that. Working with Dante has been great experience. This guy has a wealth of experience to offer. Thanks for your generosity, time and thoughtfulness. Also to my fans, they really did a great job of voting for me, helped me where they could and even availing themselves in the event. Thanks for being there when I needed you, I really appreciated that. So many people told me to quit and some even gossiped telling me I can’t make it. My nature is that am determined and I believe in myself. I thank God for that. I don’t let anything stand in my way. 2nd Chronicles 15:7 says” But as for you be strong and do not give up for your work will be rewarded.”
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I’m going to post below a message that has been doing rounds on social media.When you read it keenly, you realise these are the exact ethos of living an examined life that OneStepBeyond has been propagating.
“University Of Port Harcourt sending off 5473 students with 78 amongst them graduating with First Class was actually a milestone, but Prof. Abioye Isaac had this narrative:
“Academic excellence is overrated! Did I just say that? Oh, yes, I said it. Being top of your class does not necessarily guarantee that you will be at the top of life.
You could graduate as the best student in Finance but it doesn’t mean you will make more money than everybody else.
The best graduating Law student does not necessarily become the best lawyer. The fact is life requires more than the ability to understand a concept, memorize it and reproduce it in an exam.
School rewards people for their memory. Life rewards people for their imagination. School rewards caution, life rewards daring.
School hails those who live by the rules. Life exalts those who break the rules and set new ones.
So do I mean people shouldn’t study hard in school? Oh, no, you should. But don’t sacrifice every other thing on the altar of First Class. Don’t limit yourself to the classroom. Do something practical
Take a leadership position. Start a business and fail. That’s a better Entrepreneurship 101. Join or start a club
Contest an election and lose. It will teach something Political Science 101 will not teach you. Attend a seminar Read books outside the scope of your course.Go on missions and win a soul for eternal rewards….
Do something you believe in!Think less of becoming an excellent student but think more of becoming an excellent person.
Make the world your classroom!”
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This link will lead you to my first publication in life posted on Magazine Reel at least a year ago. It speaks of my humble beginnings and struggle with pen and paper. But I have just begun….. http://www.magazinereel.com/why-alcohol-use-in-campus-is-dangerous-and-how-you-may-turn-it-around/
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“Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.” — Oprah Winfrey
Hey, this is the day of celebrating the essence of a mother. Mother’s Day is something everyone can relate to. People across regions, religions, castes, cultures, genders and financial status have emotions binding them to their mothers.
There could not be a more universal celebration than this one. A mother’s selfless love is the epitome of all feelings that one human being can feel for the other.
It is exceptionally befitting to set a day to celebrate the heroism of the sturdy woman who pushes her child from her womb and helps the humanity to keep flourishing.
I have strong feelings of chivalrious respect for mothers for what they do and what they are. These people serve as useful foils in the construction of our general lives. A day like this, we need to recognise their position as powerful tools that glue the missing links in our lives. Happy Mother’s Day!
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I mistook her for a second year student or thereabout. Looking young, composed and wearing a big smile, she was enthusiastic about relating her own success story. Georgina Mulwa is a born again Christian, a high energy and absolutely versatile young girl. She wears two hats: a student and a budding entrepreneur.
Born in Machakos county and the second born in a family of five. She is a finalist at Egerton university taking Bsc. Agriculture and Human Ecology Extension. She says she is so passionate about business and loves to cultivate creative and innovative thinking in the line of entrepreneurship. She loves travelling and cooking and she is a committed listener.
Georgina runs three businesses concurrently: Mat making, designer scarfs and manufacture and sales of liquid soap. She learned how to make the table mats back in 2016 during her industrial attachment at Stella Cometa Organization. She says, “At Stella, I met a certain woman, a beneficiary of the organization and she willingly taught me how to make them though at first I was resistant because my field of study did not match with bead works.”
She begun mat making immediately after the attachment, that’s August 2016 and her first client was her mum “She encouraged me a lot and through her I got more clients. When I returned to school, my potential clients were the lecturers and a few students, currently as we speak I got two permanent customers back at home” says Georgina.
To increase her range of products, her passion in bead works rose to making designer scarfs with beads, bangles and necklaces for ladies and believes more is on the way.
She started up the liquid soap business in 2015 which she sells to hotels around the university, students and lecturers.
Asked how the business has transformed her life, she says “I no longer ask my parents for money either for shopping, rent, upkeep or anything, I’m on my way to be a completely financially independent woman. I managed to pay my fourth year school fees through my business.”
She talks about what those around her thinks of her and her enduring sense of corporate social responsibility “I may not know if my friends are jealous but what I’m sure of is that majority are pleasantly challenged in that they will begin to ask questions on how I learned these things, how I juggle it with my studies and many questions. For those interested in my work and want to know the art, I do teach them for free, for example, my three current roommates all know how to make the mats and liquid soap. Back at home, have taught mat making to more than five girls and have two women with whom I work throughout.”
To up her marketing efforts, she got a Facebook page: Egecy Collections where she does most of her marketing even to other groups but also does that through sending to WhatsApp groups and friends and lastly showcasing products to people personally by going to their offices, homes and hostels.
Here is Georgina on juggling school and business ” I never miss classes to do business, once I get clients for my products, I make them mostly on weekends or when am free. I try to create time to satisfy the needs of my customers in time.
The challenges she has faced are; dealing with defaulters and clients who don’t pay at the right time, but before then, she admits having had a challenge in the management of profits. She says it has not been especially easy marketing to clients removed from her whenever she is in school.
Georgina was not short of pieces of advice to us, “The advice I can dole out is this: Don’t sit on your potentials, everybody has his or her abilities and areas of interest and at that moment you realize this, wake up and walk and work toward achieving it, and importantly, endeavour to seek the patronage of God and He will surely direct you toward realizing your call and purpose in life. Don’t be so much concerned about the challenges you will face on the way but focus on your goals.”
In future, she looks forward to expanding the business, starting a company and employing people.
Thank you for your interview with OneStepBeyond, the only place that reaffirm and communicates your worth and potentials. And thanks for making a contribution out there. Want to reach Georgina for her products? Please send email here: email@example.com. Thanks.
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